REPOSTING A “EULOGY” TO MY WIFE
WHILE SHE’S STILL AROUND TO ENJOY IT
(I offered the reflection below to mark Kathy’s 65th birthday. These thoughts are as applicable five years later, on the occasion of another milestone for her.)
My wife’s favorite scripture reading is the parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). Kathy always says that the experiences in her life make her able to identify with all three characters in the story — the son, the father, the brother — and she wants the passage read at her funeral.
I’ve promised her that, should she precede me in death, I’ll make sure her wish is fulfilled. But I’ve also insisted that I’ll read the famous Woman of Valor passage from Proverbs 31.*
“When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.” (In some translations it’s “rubies,” but why split scriptural hairs?)
One of the good things about funerals is that people’s virtues get spoken of in public. But then, that’s also one of the bad things; how unfortunate that we don’t often give voice to those virtues while the person we’re honoring is alive and on hand to hear our reflections. Everyone could use a little praise now and then.